really is everything. Like when you first start dating a new girl, they get mad if you don't make big plans and surprise them all the time. But as soon as you break up, they get mad if you do make big plans and surprise them all the time.
Or like when you go to an Asian massage parlor before it's busted, you can get a massage and then a little extra something to make you feel on top of the world. But after it's busted, it isn't any fun even though you're still going to the abandoned premises every night for three weeks in hopes that maybe Mei-Lin will return because she was the only person that really understood you after your ex left.